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Conversation with U. Rational discussion of neediness, shame, worry, and anger.

Our thesis:

Love must be given without expectation. Once you have expectations about what the other person "owes" you, you begin the slippery and seemingly interminable descent into neediness. Neediness is not about the other person. Neediness is about yourself--about needing the validation of someone else.

Love is about the other person. You must give of yourself with the belief that you're whole enough to give infinitely.

Enlightenment obtained. I am the Zen master.