well, shoot.

I didn't do several of the things I had planned to do today. Like all (most) of my readings. Or my laundry.

What I did do, though, was buy a copy of Flannery O'Connor's "The Complete Stories", because I remembered an early winter morning last year when U. and I looked at an apartment on 61st Street and when I got back all I wanted to do was sleep but instead, for some reason, I went online and found "A Good Man is Hard to Find" and read it. And I remember very well. It was completely dark in my room. And the screen was glowing. And I sat in my bed. And it was really, really good.

Good enough to prompt me to buy her collected short stories, despite the fact that I'm supposed to be saving and I have a million books I haven't read (including several I've purchased over the past couple months, like "The Brothers Karamazov" and "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance", the former I abandoned for the latter, the latter I abandoned because of all the actual motorcycle jargon I didn't feel like getting through, and nothing getting picked up because I needed to sulk for a while and then I couldn't concentrate).

But, as soon as she comes in the mail, Flannery and I are going to spend some quality time together.

!!!!!

Conversation with U. Rational discussion of neediness, shame, worry, and anger.

Our thesis:

Love must be given without expectation. Once you have expectations about what the other person "owes" you, you begin the slippery and seemingly interminable descent into neediness. Neediness is not about the other person. Neediness is about yourself--about needing the validation of someone else.

Love is about the other person. You must give of yourself with the belief that you're whole enough to give infinitely.

Enlightenment obtained. I am the Zen master.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, A.

A fire at the Point is a very satisfying way to celebrate someone's birth.

We had cheese & wine, French bread, and s'mores. T. even brought his iPod, and played what he described as the French equivalent to Frank Sinatra, and then Frank himself. You can see the city in the near distance, tall and glowing.

T. called me a hippie. Maybe because I was too close to the fire. Or because I was wearing a boy sweater. I don't know what "hippie" means anymore, but I ditch the political 1960's activism and closely relate it with "earthy". Which is a term I don't mind being associated with--it reminds me of camping, and why I feel the way I do about the people I feel that way about.

(Walking that morning for hours, to the green line stop at Bronzeville. Being afraid of the vacuum cleaner when I was 3. Vanilla soft-serve from the Cone Zone. Dog searches. Summer thunderstorms, and running through all the puddles in an oversized T-shirt. Babysitting my neighbor's children and reading Siddhartha on the couch at night. The night in Amsterdam when it rained so hard and I almost bought brown corduroys. That day it was hot and we went to the creek and swam and it was perfect. When I lost the library's copy of "On the Road", and how happy I was to find it again. The smell of my room the summer after 9th grade, when it was redone, empty, lavender, and I had early morning driver's training. My sister's wedding, being alone that night, and the phone call I got. Those sandals that I loved, from that crap store in the Upper Peninsula.)

I should write more. It's what I want to do.

I should also drink a lot of water before the AM. Wine is the happiest drunk, is it not?

I can't believe it's 11:20pm. It feels like 3 in the morning..

be prePARED.

(Hope everyone got the Lion King reference.)

In anticipation of leaving for India--whenever that may be--I've been searching through travel blogs in order to see what people have to say about specific places. I'm preparing myself; every time I read a "blah blah blah BUT I should have remembered--" or "I wish I'd known--" I make a mental check and add it to the list of things to keep in mind. I feel like a boy scout.

Apparently, the most popular travel blog domain in the universe is "[yourname]in[country].blogspot.com". Because I have a friend in China right now using this pattern, I thought I'd give it a try for India. I probably spent more than an hour just typing names in--Kate, Leslie, Anna, Anne, Ann, Mary, Jessica, Jen, Ashley, Michael, etc--and reading what came up. And the thing is, more names than not were legitimate domains of people traveling/living/studying in India. Many of them were Jaipur-based. One was even in the MSID program. It was like an instant connection to a million anonymous travelers.

Some Things To Expect:

--Occasional sexual harassment
--Constant attempts to be taken advantage of, monetarily
--Bottled water with broken seals (i.e. bottled tap water)
--People wanting their picture taken
--People using the streets as a toilet facility

I am a bit surprised by some of the recommendations I've been given, and just how extraordinarily different almost every aspect of life is going to be. Because Jaipur is in a fairly conservative region, I've been advised to leave my clothes here and purchase an entirely new wardrobe upon arrival. This advice is almost martial--it takes a tone of, "If you don't do this, you will be mistaken for a dirty slut and then harassed into oblivion."

Water. Food. Sitting positions. Eye contact. Toilet usage. The most fundamental things may need to be rethought. One thing that surprised me was the absolute ban on getting even mildly romantically involved with the locals--not because the organization takes a parental adherence to you, but rather because such an association has the potential to irreparably tarnish that person's social status in a way that's not at all intuitive to a Western mindset. Apparently in the past a village girl became associated with an American and as a result was targeted as "dirty" and not marriageable. Another story mentions a suicide. I don't know how broadly these kinds of examples apply, but I certainly won't be frivolously kissing any pretty Indian boys beneath the lovely Jaipuri moon.

[Of course... that does sort of kill the romance. But the romantic conception of two entirely different individuals with entirely dissimilar backgrounds and belief systems falling in love is less than realistic anyway. (Although that confused guy on the train was sort of sweet.)]

Anyway... it's not that I feel bad about all of this. I'm really thrilled to experience a place where almost everything is different. I would love to come back to America and see it through the scope of another country... "God, this bread is so weird."

adrenaline dreams.

Last night I dreamt I was escaping from jail--only I was actually escaping en route from an old jail to a new jail. I was on a train, and was fleeing with 3 others. We had to jump into a patch of tall grass that was growing alongside the tracks, and stay down as the rest of the train went past. Then we had to make our way through a small Vermont town with bicyclists and little toddling cars--the dream felt antiquated, like maybe it was taking place in the 20's or 30's. Eventually we were caught.

I really liked that dream. Not because it was fun, exactly--it was actually really stressful--but because it was terrifying and liberating at the same time. In the dream, I was very in-the-moment. There was adrenaline.

The night before I had a dream that I got to go to Africa. I was working on a research project, but things were getting ominous. There were seedy characters with questionable motivations. Tropical diseases were caught.

But I was also very satisfied when I woke up. Both dreams had dark underlying plots, but they were also vivid in imagery and sensation, and involved me walking in a direction, unsure where I was going. But I knew I was going somewhere completely new.

Not exactly hard to interpret, I guess.

Writing isn't considered procrastination, right?

Yeah. So I'm a little bit ADD. So I can't make it through a paragraph of John Rawls without lifting my eyes to stare at the cupboard and fantasize about Indian cupboards. So I've watched way too many episodes of Arrested Development today. So I still don't have an idea for my response due tomorrow at 7pm (I just agree with Rawls, OK?)

I completely embody that state of being where I'm so disinterested that I don't even feel worry. Relevant things just don't feel relevant to my life right now. It's like when I was in 9th grade, only I'm in the right place now. Societies collapse, yes. But the rest of this year is going to be so exciting! Also, how did it become 3rd Week? Like, whoa.

We had a party on Saturday. It was good, I think. Actually, no, I know, because I didn't get drunk (unlike the last one) and so I spent some disembodied-feeling time just watching people interact and consoling some emotionally intoxicated friends and appreciating my own taste in music. People mostly stick to their groups, but it's interesting to see the ones who drift into new groups, and the unlikely pairs that bunker down in a corner to have an intense conversation. It's also weird to see the couple of loners I don't remotely recognize, in my apartment, mixing white Russians and scanning my bookshelf. A few people were still around when I went to bed at about 3AM. The next morning things were clear and sunny (did I mention I didn't get drunk? I love mornings like that) and the apartment was surprisingly clean. No spills or vomit. We have reigned-in friends. Success.

Also, a couple people mentioned my blog, which was super-weird. Mostly because neither of them have read it, and it was like, "I heard you have an intense blog," which, I mean, how do you respond? This makes me wonder if more than like, three people read this. (I can see you all, lurking).

But more than likely it was just A. referring to it for whatever reason.

My weeks have been sort of vaguely boring without being bad. Lots of e-mail checking going on. This quarter is mainly divorced from the angsty loneliness I wallowed in (publicly? maybe) over the last two quarters. I'm back to being OK with being The Alone-ist of the Alone. To be honest, I don't even know if I could deal with a relationship. Once in 7th grade, I "went out" with this 8th grader for a week--someone I'd had a crush on for months, mind you--and grew annoyed by his nightly calls by about the 2nd day. I think I'm still kinda like that. I'd prefer to think of myself as some sort of loner superhero or something. Superheroes are always loners. I should get on that saving-people thing.

It's 12:34AM which means a) it's a very special time, numbers-wise, and b) I'm going to be upset with myself when I'm alarmed awake circa 8AM.

et oui papa

T. is over there <--- teaching A. a song in French. After we just wrote and composed a horrible, twangy country song. It feels like last summer.

Except the window is closed. And I'm in leggings. And people aren't having parties.

A. is going to Paris.
T. is going to Seoul.
U. is going to Bordeaux.
And I am going to Jaipur and/or Pune.

But for now we're all still here, already putting off our homework and skipping a class or two, and planning for a party.

I skipped everything--everything--today and instead went downtown and applied for my passport. This was only mildly irresponsible. The post office is only open Monday-Friday and closes at 4PM. Things were going to be disrupted, no matter when I went.

It was a rainy day in Chicago. One of my favorite kinds, where the steady downpour lasts all day, so every time you enter a building you're relieved and earth-smelling and almost immediately cozy. This weather makes the skyscrapers disappear into a haze. It makes gray, polluted puddles appear everywhere. The El still offers free "heat"--while waiting on the platform for the train, in the little shelter (train stop?), you can push a button and everything will go bright yellow and heat will radiate from above you. Never enough to warm you, but enough to remind you that heat exists, and what it's like. People huddled. Today was huddling weather. I felt happy.

If I were a skilled photographer, today would have been an excellent day to photograph people.

I thought of a lot of things to write about, but now they're just collected and unused: the performer on the El. The thing about Chicago. The poor financial state I am in. My mother's infinite goodness.

I had an idea recently that I'd start recording things I remember. Just getting them down, to have them reserved somehow. Like the games Kristin and I used to play in her shed, which required crawling around on a precarious 1 and 1/2 ft width board about 20 ft above the concrete floor (usually involving ancient Egypt and lots of dogs). And the horses across the street from my Oma & Opa's old house in a little German town. And the desperate indifference I felt at volleyball games at 14, and the CD player and songs I clung to because nobody interested me (and I interested nobody). And the smell of the bus on the way home and how dark it got and how somehow this bred romantic ideas in me. And the popcorn wagon. And passing out in a bathroom some early morning hour in Maryland. And Joe, the white water rafting guide. And staying home sick and trying to write E.E. Cummings-style poems in my bed. And the puzzle I spent three days on in Leelanau last September. And washing my hair in the lake with Kristin that night in the U.P. and those blue tin cups we pumped well water into and sometimes made pink lemonade in with her powder. And the baby foxes. And the stone necklace I lost. And walking to the park in the summer to get into water fights with the guy I liked. And when no one passed me the football in 7th grade gym, which was good, because I didn't know how to play anyway. And Ravendale. And plastic bag kites. And Animal Island. And talking to his friend because I didn't know how to talk to him. And painting the church. And Amour, my first actual journal, and that cat diary which was my first attempt. And the one time I ever got into a physical fight. And the old playground equipment, which was wooden and not plastic, and the Cheese, and the time I convinced my neighbor to jump over the fence and she ripped her pants. And that song about "sweet potato pie". And the time I crawled into and fell out of the basketball hoop. And the time my shirt caught on fire from the sparkler. And when I got out of my kayak to pee and then fell in and it was deep. And the swimming hole. And that story about the Elvis-impersonating three-toed-sloth. And naming the class guinea pig Ginger and the decision walking home in 9th grade that "love" was an overwhelming word and concept. And getting called a "prep" in 6th grade and feeling instantly flattered. And that time on the phone at 3AM when I didn't say it back. And the basement karaoke. And getting drunk for the first time on red wine on the back porch while playing Shithead.

It's not that I'm nostalgic. It's more that I'm stunned when I remember the variety of things that have happened to me and how many different people I've been and how I'm still kinda the same. Going through it all in my head, after the process of active remembering, it takes a long time to place myself now. What I'm worried about and how I'm hurt or ecstatic and where I'm going tomorrow morning.

I am located at the University of Chicago. I am going to India. Why?

The disappearing Sears:

??? !!! ???

Today, I got this information:

"Dear AIIS language students:

You have been admitted to the AIIS summer language program."

and then, after I was all "Sorry I gotz no mooonneeyz," I got this information:

"Dear Emilie:

Because of your ranking by the language committee, you are eligible to receive a tuition waiver, if you could come up with your own funds for airfare and living expenses."

..............!

This means I could potentially spend the summer in Jaipur. It would be roughly the same as spending the summer in Boulder. At first this was really exciting.

But now I feel really sad. Because I really want to spend the summer in Boulder. I have it all planned out in my head and I'm going to hang out with my sister and her friends and Marla and my interesting new coffee shop friends and it's going to be wonderful. There are going to be bonfires and a hot tub and I won't have to think about school. And then I'm going to see my German relatives that I haven't seen in five years and we're going the hike and bond and I'm going to eat at the Dushanbe Teahouse and buy cheap used books and bike all over. And maybe I'll start writing again.

So I don't know what to do. There's still the chance that I get the NSEP (I should find out in a week or so, now) in which case I'd have the whole year for India and would love a relaxing summer in Boulder. But if I don't, all I'd have is the autumn Pune program--and I might like to be there for longer.

I'm in mood-swing city.

Comments?

lady in WAITING.

Because nobody can keep my applications and their implications straight (and I mean, not even my mom), here's a little review on the status of my attempts at fleeing the country with little in hand for a very different place:

1. University of Chicago Pune Program

Entails: Late September thru mid-December in Pune, India (apparently very intellectual, it's called the "Oxford of India" [or maybe it's "Cambridge of India"--I always get those two confused]). I would be staying with 25 or so other UChicagoans, and fulfilling my civilization requirement by learning all about South Asian civ. Travel to nearby states involved (Kerala!). Rumored to be very FUN. Involves costs piled on top of regular quarter costs.
Status: Accepted.

2. American Institute of Indian Studies Intermediate Hindi Program

Entails: Ten-week (summer) intensive Hindi study in the city of Jaipur.
Status: Pending--but who cares? I have no funding; I'm not going.

3. Critical Language Scholarship (funding)

Entails: A couple thousand dollars from the federal gov't for the intensive study of a language abroad. Application specifically asking for funding for AIIS summer program (see above).
Status: Rejected.

4. Minnesota Studies in International Development -- India

Entails: Early-September thru mid-April (8 months!) with University of Minnesota juniors, seniors, and grad students in Jaipur. Classes all centered on international development, sustainability, public health, etc (and Hindi). HOME-STAY. Spring internship with a nearby NGO! Research project based on findings in internship, classes. All costs ~$16,000 (including plane ticket).
Status: Accepted.

5. National Security Education Program -- Boren Scholarship (funding)

Entails: Funding for entirety of Minnesota program. A promise to work for the gov't for the same amount of time spent abroad--the idea is to recruit returnees with knowledge in languages critical to national security to the State, Defense, National Security, etc. departments in order to avoid doing things like invading nations we know nothing about (or to better invade them, maybe). The service requirement is flexible, though (think: Environmental Protection Agency) and think even the Peace Corps counts now.
Status: Pending. . . . . .

It's a bit frustrating having plans that aren't set for next year, and waiting around to hear about funding, as I had to contact both the Pune program head and the MSID head to explain about such complications and why I'd rather not just fork over the $500 and $400 deposits (respectively) before finding out what I can do. Because, obviously, I'd be losing either $500 or $400. But they clearly want their deposits, and I'm clearly a bit of an inconvenience. I have to re-contact the head of the study abroad office again by Wednesday if I haven't heard from NSEP (which I will not have). I'm just hoping he doesn't want me to pay.

This is all not that interesting, maybe.

Anyway.

On a different note, these are the classes I'm taking this quarter:

1. State Collapse and State Reconstruction. This is technically a human rights course. It's taught by an African guy (!) which is new, as I rarely run into Africans on campus and this is the first time I've seen/met an African professor. He seems a little naturally shy, and sometimes I zone out a little and lose the English in his accent, but he has a lot of intelligent things to say. Every class a couple people "present" the readings by asking discussion questions based on them (I'm tomorrow!). We've already touched on the whole You're-Applying-Western-Standards-to-Other-Nations argument, which can get a little excruciating when you're talking about BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS, like not KILLING people for having other religious BELIEFS or ethnic ORIGINS. Tomorrow I'm going to make people talk about whether or not population regulations are ethical.

2. Hindi 103. 'Course. Only Jason seems to be on speed now (7 exercises for homework is just. not. realistic.) Also, we're learning the URDU script (think borrowed from Persian [borrowed from Arabic]). Which is both difficult and kind of awesome.

3. Philosophical Foundations of Human Rights. Taught by a self-deprecating British man (aren't they all?), given to lengthy anecdotes, but apparently very learned on his subject. The first class, he managed to mention abortion, Rambo, and the stupidity of children. I anticipate a good quarter. (ps--African, now British? I'm oh-so-international this quarter.)

4. Urban Ecology: The Environmental History of the City. Technically a history course. Very interesting subject taught by a wavy-haired guy (insert remembrance of "Catcher in the Rye") who's actually an archaeologist. Also seems to have a sense of humor, and be kind of brilliant. We're reading some very cool books and sort of focusing on Chicago.

Anyway, I have scads of stuff to do (all the reading might kill me this quarter)... so ttyl, lolz.

bad. feelings.

Ever since I've gotten back from Spring Break--especially ever since I've known I didn't get the CLS--I've had a very bad feeling in the pit of my stomach about the NSEP for study in Jaipur. Sure I got into the Minnesota program, but that's very different from the federal government handing me a giant check to go through with it.

My feeling worsened today when I talked to Niko, a friend who went to China on the NSEP previously. He told me that apparently only about 300 awards are available. I was imaging something closer to 1,000. This year, 16 people at the University of Chicago alone applied, and several of them also proposed India study. He also said that they like to get a variety of places represented, and I'm sure India is more overrepresented in applications than, say, Lesotho.

In fact, I think I might be going off the assumption from now on that I'm not getting the scholarship, just to prepare myself for finding out. I don't deal well with failure, especially when I set out with good feelings about myself, my capabilities, etc. If I had been rejected by U of C, I would have been inconsolable for, probably, weeks. Months, maybe.

So it's good to start early! I fail. Fail. Failfailfail.

In brighter news, I sort of have housing and sort of have a job for the summer in Boulder. Ah, foothills.

songs for late

1. Knife - Grizzly Bear
2. Throw it All Away - Brandi Carlile
3. Reckoner - Radiohead
4. It's Not Happening - The Be Good Tanyas
5. Paper Planes - M.I.A. (yes, really)
6. Seeing Hands - Dengue Fever
   

success/fail

This past week has been so weird, such a combination of successes and failures and bizarre emotional reactions that to even begin to chart them in a characteristically lengthy way would be too much for my brain. Also, wondering why this is double-spaced--whatever. Just give me tea.

SUCCESS: I climbed a mountain. Sort of. I was in Colorado, obviously, and though I think any Coloradoan would laugh at that statement in its context (11,000 feet is maybe a mountain, but a little one, and not exactly one involving climbing equipment [except ski poles, in my case]), but a Midwesterner, a Midwesterner would understand. Actually it was maybe the most physically demanding thing I've ever done--the other contender is this 30-mile hilly bike ride when I was 12 or 13. That was rough. Also, I anticipate childbirth won't be a walk in the park. But I have time to do more painful things to my body before then, like hike up a 12,000 foot mountain.

FAIL: I barely climbed a mountain. It got pretty bad. The last half mile or so, other people had to carry my things. Then the combination of altitude and pain and sun and whatever just left me with a headache and wanting to vomit and not eat anything and feeling weak and genuinely lame. I can't feel terrible about myself because of this one, seeing as altitude sickness is not really something you can help, but 11,000 feet is pretty wimpy. It also somewhat amounts to me needing to be more physically active. I wish I still had my bike. Oh well--GOAL.

FAIL: Hanging out with my sister's friends, it became obvious to me--painfully obvious--that I. Am. So. Ignorant. Now, that used to not bother me so much. The conversation inevitably turned to something I don't understand (calculus, engineering, physics) and I sort of paid attention and sort of zoned out and mostly didn't care because I was not a _____ Person. But for some reason... this time, it depressed me to no end. Because I don't want to not be a Math Person; I don't want to be an English Person or whatever the hell I'd be referred to as.. I just want to be an intelligent person who can participate in the conversation. I don't like feeling so polarized. So anyway, after sitting in a hot tub and drinking coconut rum and listening to a conversation about engineering and physics that I did not even marginally understand, I felt for the first time a sort of aversion to the "theoretical" basis of the teaching at this university, and the way "practical" seems like a dirty word. Practical means useful. There's nothing bad about that. I started thinking that maybe I'm not learning much of anything, maybe I'm cheating at education. I know things about water management and the AIDS crisis and oil scarcity, but all you need to learn about that is an ability to read. In fact, it could all be learned in my free time. WHY AM I NOT DEVOTING MY LIFE TO CHEMISTRY AND CALCULUS? I like talking about social ideas, but scientific ideas are just another kind of philosophy--just more complicated. And it's not uninteresting. I just need.. a good book. To teach me. Or a very patient person. Or something.

FAIL: No CLS Scholarship for summer Jaipur study. Odds were bad (500/4,000) but still. And I don't want to spend my summer begging people for money. More on that later.

SUCCESS...? So, while all of these Fails were mixing in my head on two airplanes and in some stupid Witchita airport and then on the dysfunctional CTA and I really just felt a lot like crying because it's been a weird, mood-swingy day or two, and I was feeling completely disinterested in humanity, I happened to sit down next to this guy on the bus who pressed a little paper toward me with Clark/Lake written on it and implored me to help him figure out how to get there. He was confused since the Blue Line randomly stopped and shoved us off the train and onto a bus and he didn't really understand how he'd get to the stop. So I helped him. I told him to follow me and asked him about himself and he told me he was from India (which was already obvious because of the accent) but I couldn't help but be completely charmed by his unassuming code of dress--front-facing, unbroken-in baseball cap; tucked-in shirt--and the little smile he had while telling me all of these things about India I already knew. He was particularly eager to talk about Buddhism and Hinduism and how he's not religious and why. At the stop, he gave me his business card and told me to call him when I'm in India. It was all just very strange, but at the same time the experience seemed to be winking at me--it was like the final fulfillment of that otherworldly night following chum-chums in Devon. I'd met a stranger. I'd made, though superficially, a connection in the city.

last summer was nice.

get lost.

Why is LOST so amazing?

Here's why:

1. It encompasses the best elements for a modern epic: tensions between science and faith; the birth of a society and evolution of positions within it (and factions); constant, shifting questions of trust; intense character development; multiple plot-lines; constant evocation of the past; danger; outside characters with vague motives; mythology and mystery.

2. The archetypes are so interesting. The Leader, the Con Man, (not to be confused with the Outlaw), the Man of Faith, the Young Mother, the Foreign Couple (with Gender-Equality-Issues), the Creepy Guy You Can't Trust, the Soldier, the Lover.

Interesting because each one's past informs who they are on the island. And you learn their past directly, by seeing it.

3. Desmond. I just like Desmond. It's A's influence, maybe.

---

If you don't see it from the beginning, it isn't worth it. If you do see it from the beginning, it's sort of endlessly fascinating. Admittedly, Season 3 mostly sucked.

So, I don't actually watch any other TV. But Lost is good because of the story factor. It's a story. I sometimes spend time just thinking of how satisfying it is as a story. It's kind of like the Twilight Zone, only modern and way more complicated.

It's the mystery factor--so few stories are mysteries anymore, and mysteries, I think, speak to people more deeply than America's Next Top Model. Because at the end of the episode, you still don't know what's going on but you're a little bit closer to finding out. Sort of like how at the end of the day, you're still not sure why you're alive but some more interesting things might have happened to pull you in a direction.

Except it's bigger than that, because you know the mystery in the story is overarchingly significant, and cosmic, and profoundly life-altering. And we will find out.

Most likely we won't find out why we exist, though. Or what's beyond the beyondest thing we know. Or what's the last beyond.

Did that make sense, without sounding incredibly prosaic?

No? Well, give me a break. I'm talking about a television show, here.

bureaucracy.

Today was horribly bureaucratic.

Here are the things I got accomplished:

1. I got taken/printed out passport photos.
2. I sent in my Jaipur confirmation materials, sans $400 deposit.
3. I deposited my check.
4. I picked up/paid for my contacts. (These last two hardly seem like "accomplishments", until you realize how unwilling I am to run boring, essential errands.)
5. I bought two books--"The Bloodless Revolution" (vegetarianism philosophy/history book [with pretty cover!] to help with ENST final [12-15page?!] paper), and Beginner's Urdu Script, because my Hindi prof believes that learning the Urdu script is essential to knowing Hindi, and damned if I'm starting next quarter without an intro.
6. I called AT&T about how our DSL is suck-city and can never connect (how dare you suggest I'm stealing someone's internet right now..), and scheduled a guy to come in and fix life.
7. I got to the West Side, I ate in a fine, stuck-up vegetarian restaurant, I came home.
8. I finished my IS project circa 12:30AM in the Reg.

Here are the reasons I wanted to gauge out my eyes repeatedly:

1. CVS is low on the cool factor and took an hour to get my passport/personal-for-family photos processed and printed. This put a dent in my errand-run and I ended up going to campus, then back, to look at/buy some books.
2. After I had the pictures my phone died and since I had a dinnerrr arrangement I had to come back to the apartment to charge the phone, and also get all my confirmation stuff around, and then I had to go back to campus to the REG--to get random information and then blah blah blah boring stuff involving emailing study abroad people about all my conflicting program/funding/deposit issues.
3. I laid down a staggering ONE HUNDRED FIFTY FIVE DOLLARS for like TWO MONTHS WORTH of contacts. WHAT?! That's more than the frigging check I deposited, which I was oh-so-reassured by. I now have to wait until next Friday to have like, ANY money at ALL. I mean, I know I have special oxygen requirements or whatever, but this is just frigging ridiculous. Think of the books I could buy! The impoverished families I could feed! My own impoverished mouth I could feed! All this I forgo for some floppy little eye adhesives? LAME.
4. The AT&T conversation was easily about two years long. Listen--I don't need to talk to 4 different people to hear the same thing 4 different times. If I wanted another opinion, I'd go to a bad doctor and then go to a good doctor. I just want some DSL, so I can check my email once in a while and see if study abroad people/scholarship people have gotten back to me, or if a prof has suddenly assigned something I have no time for. That's all, kindly AT&T folk. Send a man with a toolbox, and we're done here.
5. I accidentally broke a pane of glass in my door out to the front balcony. Seriously. This is no time to get all Popeye on the apartment; that'll probably be coming out of the $2 left in my bank account.
6. Someone I know got frigging jumped, increasing the number of people I personally know who've been attacked in Hyde Park to an uncomfortable figure. Which is desperately frustrating in a way that requires a much longer, separate post to even begin to touch on.
7. Dinner was surprisingly circa $~90, and was paid for by my friend's boyfriend whom I just met today. And none of us were satisfied with it.

Zen.
Zen.
Zen.

In other news, happier news, I got into the University of Chicago PUNE program. Which means..

(drum roll, please........)

I am going to India this fall, no matter what.

I want 2283957 times more to go on the year-long Jaipur, but regardless, I am getting out of here. Thank sweet Jesus on high.

1:55AM = sleep now? OK.

human; nature

Yesterday I ate remarkably delicious Ethiopian food. I started reading--for fun--The Omnivore's Dilemma, by Michael Pollen. I started getting around my confirmation materials for Jaipur.

I also had two very different, very strange experiences. Involving animals.

Subject A: Baby chicks at the MSI.

My dad had wanted to go to the Museum of Science and Industry. I agreed, even though I find it a bit creepy and hysterically pro-capitalism (the oil and coal exhibits are entirely uncritical, for example, showing kids how the fossil fuels can be "fun"). The miniature Chicago-Seattle train set-up was cool. The WWII German U-boat seemed really interesting, but the tickets for it were sold out.

And then there was the Genetics exhibit. It was fine, mostly. There were lots of interactive displays ("What animal fetus is this? Turn the wheel to find out!") and a little film on the Human Genome Project. Because the museum (as most museums are) was targeted mainly at kids, they also found some reason to put a couple incubators in the Genetics room. The first had several eggs that were starting to hatch; the second featured a dozen or more baby chicks, running around and bumping into each other. Both incubators were surrounded by children and their parents, gasping at the cracking shells and cooing at the clumsy baby chicks. I took a picture on my phone and started thinking about how weird it was... these animals are born to delighted human faces, no mother in sight, and then they run around a tiny octagonal room while people tap on the glass. Signs hung on the walls, explaining how eggs are fertilized, explaining the stages of development. I took a picture on my phone.

And I wondered--How separated from animals are we?

Later that night, I showed A. the picture. She nodded. "Ooh, yeah, the chicks. Did you know they kill them? Yeah, I know someone who worked at the MSI over the summer. Apparently, every Tuesday they come in and remove the baby chicks, and they have nothing to do with them. So they kill them."

?!

Subject B: Grizzly Man

I'd been looking forward to seeing this ever since my sister told me about it a year ago. Telling me about it, she looked really pinched and uncomfortable. She described it as disturbing.

For anyone who doesn't know, Grizzly Man is a documentary about Timothy Treadwell, a man who spent 13 consecutive summers in the Alaskan wilderness filming grizzly bears. But he doesn't study them. He simply loves them, in really the most passionate sense of the word. He gets dangerously close, names them and speaks softly to them. He isn't eccentric, in the Steve Irwin nature-man sense. Rather, he seems legitimately mentally ill--possibly bipolar. The disturbing part is the fact that the 13th summer, he gets too close and is mauled to death and then eaten by a starving bear. And his girlfriend goes with him. And it's caught on tape. And described.

Actually, this alone isn't the most disturbing aspect. Everything works together. You hear about his descent into alcoholism and the reinvention of his identity afterward.. his discovery of the beauty of nature causing him to give up alcohol. You see his tension with civilization as he curses wildly, lividly, everyone from the government to the park service for their wrongful treatment of the grizzlies. You see him tenderly stroking the foxes, whispering "I love you, I love you, I love you."

In the end, the documentary wasn't really about Treadwell. It was more about--as filmmaker Herzog describes--"cold indifference". Treadwell seemed to lose contact with his own humanity, seemed to want to be a bear (as many of those interviewed pointed out). The portrayal of Treadwell was sympathetic, but the real message seemed to be the brutal reality of nature.

(I recommend the documentary, by the way. It's hard to really understand unless you watch him.)

Chicks as objects, bears as family. Destroyed chicks, destroyed human.

Which really just hits home the phrase, "the cold indifference of nature."

Regardless, an angry email to the MSI is in order.

frigid-air

Apparently, by the book of MAC Property Management, there's an all-or-nothing policy when it comes to heat. Which is to say, either it's 900 degrees in here and we're all sweating and basically in our underwear and opening all the windows in the middle of the Chicago winter, or they turn the heat off entirely. It was circa 50 degrees the other day (which was AMAZING, my joy was paralleled only by that of the little bird that washed itself in the little puddle on an ice sheet on someone's lawn and the squirrel that made eye contact with me) and so, rightly, our heat was turned off. But they haven't turned it on since, and this is CHICAGO, people, which means it's back in the 20-degree range again, at least for a while. So we've closed all our windows and bundled in blankets and I took a ridiculously hot bath tonight and even drank some of the coffee T. made with soy milk. Which might explain why I'm serenely writing a very detailed post at 1AM in the middle of yet another overwhelmingly demanding week.

On Soy Milk:

So I've recently been really disturbed by milk. And eggs. And, well, I've been having vegan tendencies. It's taken me a while to come out and admit that, because of my avid fear of "becoming" something just because I have friends who've gone the same route, but I've been very interested in the topic of food ethics lately (some 4/5ish months ago my vegetarian kick became less about the environment and more about animal ethics) and what I've read about the dairy industry makes it seem no friendlier than the meat industry, really. The difference between veganism and vegetarianism is HUGE though, in terms of demands. Vegetarians can still maintain a pretty spontaneous dietary lifestyle, but most vegans I've hung out with have a very difficult time eating out, etc. I'm sure you can live just as freely, it's just about effort, but I'm a bit worried about balancing the surrendering of dairy while simultaneously maintaining a healthy diet while simultaneously not smashing my head into walls over suddenly-assigned-papers and weekly tests and midterms coming out the ass.

I'm thinking about doing an experimental vegan week spring quarter, however.

But anyway, what I was talking about in the first place was SOY MILK, which I bought the other day and tried to be really optimistic about. I tried it on my Raisin Bran yesterday morning and it made me feel vaguely nauseous in a why-is-this-bizarre-watery-yellow-crap-in-my-mouth kind of way. Perhaps it gets some getting used to. But it's not bad in coffee.

On Hindi:

Finally today I've memorized the entirety of my lines during the Hindi skit. I can recall it all independent of my cue cards. That's not to say it doesn't come out choppy and strangely emphasized, much like the English equivalent of "I love grapefruit because... it's so.... unusually tasty... when.. eaten with...... sugar?" I also can't guarantee that the tenuous string tying my brain to the progression of words won't be severed upon the impact of 10-ish all-too-attentive faces. But seriously. I've got like 4 months of the language under my belt, how spectacular and Angelina Jolie-ish am I expected to be? I'll fall to my knees and weep tears of sweet satisfaction when I'm done with the whole mess at approximately 2:00pm Thursday.

On India:

My fantasies involving Jaipur have gotten a little too intense lately, likely due to the fact that finals week is quickly approaching. Among the unhealthy things I've done in relation to the fact that I might be in India next year:

1. Fantasize about writing a "Namaste, there!" letter to my host-stay Hindustani family. This would happen in late summer, and I would discuss where I go to college, my family members, and where I live (I also imagined drawing a US map and putting a star on MI to indicate where I grew up).
   
2. Google "Jaipuri woman".
   
3. Wonder about the Hindi word for "camel", so I can talk about how excited I am to see a camel.
4. Consider googling train rates so I can see how easily and cheaply I could get to the Himalayan foothills from Rajasthan.
   
5. Activate my University of Minnesota email address and think fondly of beautiful, wonderful Minnesota.
   

Stuff to remember (SELF): The NSEP is an intensely competitive scholarship, and this year there were a record number of applicants. Consider that your fate rests in the hands of probably some greasy DCers with stinking-bad cologne and hence you probably won't get funded, and hence CAN'T go to JAIPUR and must settle for CHICAGO which still has decent masala dosa in DEVON.

I'm going to Boulder soon (!!!) for spring break to see my sister and become physically active and maybe go camping and eat at the teal-and-pink and other-colored Dushanbe Teahouse and also eat Nepalese food and walk barefoot in streams and read books and write maybe, and look for a summer job?

ALSO: I might take a class on Thomas Mann's "Magic Mountain" next quarter; read in conjunction with Nietzsche and other philosophers who informed his work. It sounds kind of ridiculously amazing, and also it fits into the IS "area and civilization studies" track and also I really feel the need to channel into my Germanness (Germanicness? Germanity?) and maybe this is how I can do it. I mean, I could have just as easily grown up speaking Deutsch. I should at least read a book from the fatherland.

This is totally what I'm going to think about during my skit, damn it.

and the god of redemption smiles upon me.

The University of Minnesota has deemed me worthy. I have been accepted into the year-long Minnesota Studies in International Development program in Jaipur. Now my hiatus hinges on funding, NSEP-style--I have to wait for at least another month.

Party tonight, was OK. I fulfilled my weekend socializing.

But who cares? Jaipur is 50% closer.

hello from my cavernous cavern.

So, I was thinking that things are basically The Suck lately.

Here are various reasons I've felt down this week:

1) The other day, I gave a man some money. I then walked to the bus stop, and watched as he walked directly to the liquor store.

2) Wednesday I did the following things: Went to a Starbucks cafe in a Barnes & Noble, got a stupid tomato-and-onion pizza-looking thing which was unnecessarily placed in a big plastic container, didn't even eat it all, got Grandma's cookies, looked at the ingredients in Grandma's Cookies, realized Grandma's cookies have "caramel color" in them, wtf?, accidentally littered as I was pulling my ID out and running for the bus. So many things depressed me in those twenty minutes.

3) I realized Tuesday that my Hindi skit is next Thursday, not the week after.

4) It's still fucking winter.

5) I now have no friends that are not in a relationship. This is not really an exaggeration.

6) I want to commune with nature, but the only nature here is snow. And it's dirty snow.

Here are the results for this year so far:

My academic life: +10
My personal life: -20

I would like some kind of personal demand on my attention. I feel like Janis Ian penning the lyrics to "At Seventeen".. pretty soon I'll be getting cats, lots and lots of cats, cats everywhere, I'll be naming them all, after the horoscopes and the world's longest rivers and tallest mountains, after Broadway characters.

I sure as hell hope I get out of the country this year, and soon.

I wanna be like you-ou-ou!

When I was little, I never saw The Jungle Book. I don't know why. I lived for Disney.

Anyway, I'm having a Jungle Book renaissance. I want to watch it. I want to read it. I realize I'm a little all-India-all-the-time lately, but I have a lot to learn and it's hard to immerse in Ye Olde Amrika. I want to go to the bazaars and drink chai and see the elephants! I want to hear Hindi enough that I can speak it with something of a natural flow. So, here in Amrika, I'm turning to The Jungle Book.

Here's something cute:

English: bear; Hindi: bhaalu (भालू)
English: panther/leopard; Hindi: bagheera (बघीरा)
English: elephant; Hindi: haathi (हाथी)

You get the idea. I'm not certain about the spellings... but now you know your Hindi jungle animals (add bandar [pronon. "bundahr"] for "monkey" and you're set)!

Yes; I go to great lengths to convince myself I'm studying while not studying.

And tonight is better than last night. I'm drinking tea and finished with today's essay/Hindi quiz/Bio midterm trio. The constant barrage of essays and midterms I've been encountering lately have left me feeling a bit withered; last night I was basically prepared to shoot myself in the face. But still, with everything I have to do over the next 4 weeks, I'm most uncomfortable about the prospect of doing a skit in Hindi in front of my class. I have 3 other partners, so isn't as if I'm alone; still, the idea of memorizing and then delivering 3 minutes worth of lines in a foreign language while also attempting to act makes me want to crawl inside a shell.

Shiver.

Course registration started today and the classes I'm looking at for next quarter are a little on the awesome side--I'll update on those when they're set, though.

I have more besides work on my brain, but I haven't got the organizational skills nor guilt-free time to make it materialize in wordform. So you get to learn Hindi.

मैं जैसे आप होना चाहती हूँ ।

अरे, हिन्दी!

जी हा, मै हिन्दी मे लिख रही है। लेकिन आप लोग समझ नही हैं।

तो अच्छा। मुझे हिन्दी पढ़ना चाहिये।

नया शब्द:

1. पड़ना - to "must"
   
2. लड़ना - to fight
   
3. ख़त्म करना - to finish
   
4. लेख - article (M)
   
5. छुट्टी - vacation (F)
   
6. सच - true
   
7. भाषण - lecture (M)
   
8. हड़ताल - strike (F)
   
9. हंगामा - uproar; chaos (M)
   
10. गड़बड़ - disorder (F)
    
11. तमाशा - show/entertainment (M)
12. तैयार - ready
13. बाल - hair (M)
    
14. बीमारी - illness (F)
    
15. परीक्षा - examination (F)
    

7th hufta

Things I'd Rather Be Doing Than Studying:

• Finishing the last 53 pages of Rabbit, Run.
• Watching a documentary.

But then, that was my weekend.

Three-day weekend; was marvelous. I feel recharged. It doesn't sound like it maybe, but I'm just experiencing the opposite of ennui since the beginning of this year. I'm in love with learning. Studying is still learning, kind of. Just a more slow, dependent form.

On Saturday, T. and I went to Devon (for the first time since the night with my magical Indian guy with the baggy.) We ate terrible sweets again (I finally tried barafi and rasgulla, neither of which I would recommend getting excited about.) We ate at the same place: masala dosa, mutter paneer, naan, sweet lime sodas. I've gotten so good at eating Indian food I barely notice the hot factor anymore. Oh, how I've evolved.

Then we went to the Kitaab Ghar, where I joyously purchased four Hindi books directed at, I imagine, toddlers. One is called "Bhudiya ki roti" (The Old Woman's Bread), one's about a mouse, one is called "Dadi ki Sari" (Grandma's Sari) and then there's a book of stories and exercises. I probably won't have time to integrate new words into my vocabulary until the summer, but I'm having beautiful visions of summering in Boulder and lying in the sun with a Hindi-English dictionary, reading my children's books.

I believe there's a function on here that allows for writing in Devenagari, which is a lot nicer than the transliteration--transliterated Hindi takes longer to translate in my head than the original text.

I will delve into that, now.

Mmmn.

I am swimming in a sea of couples. They're everywhere. I feel like 80% of the people I know are couples. Normally that's all well and good, they're seemingly in hiding, until February 14 when suddenly they're out en masse, crowding out restaurants and all other public places, accidentally shoving their roses in my face, awkwardly and uncasually dipping their bread in olive oil and holding hands and just generally making themselves noticed.

I do not like a holiday that makes singles feel unspecial and couples feel tense and obligated.

Does the Y-chromosome still exist? I'm not sure; I don't think I associate with any anymore. And I would feel a lot better if I could just flirt.

...and, as usual, the most fervently celebratory, holiday-acknowledging individual in our apartment building is the Argentinian lady on the first floor who solely speaks Spanish.

Ooh, class of.. that one time.

I'm having the sort of week you have after a really exhausting week. Which is to say, I'm being lazier than I should be.

Recent addictions: anything chocolate in sight, Google news, Barack Obama speeches.

Tonight I fell into a myspace hole. I started looking at friends of people's friends, and found a zillion people I went to high school with. Some of them have had babies. Lots of them have gone Greek. By all appearances, not a lot of them have changed much.

It's kind of funny. About half of the people closest to me I met in the past year; most of the rest are my family. Looking at the websites people have, and the statements they make about themselves, doesn't make me feel closer to them; it makes me feel even more distanced. At least before, when I've looked back without knowing, I could pretend to have gained some kind of solidarity with my class. I'm sure we're not all as wildly antithetical as I imagine.

Well, OK. I'm not sure. But it's not as if I want to go back and try to make relationships exist where they don't. I've grown accepting of the fact that while my best friends here look back on high school nostalgically, this is the first place I'm going to feel that way about.

It's just interesting that people can be so radically different. All because of what they're taught, what they read, what they get exposed to. Durkheim and Marx and DeBeauvoir should be required reading for every living, breathing, literate soul. If you don't understand the words, buy a dictionary. I did. The anthropologists and the linguists and the zealots and the historians and the environmentalists and those of the counterculture and the scientists and the poets--if you don't drink it in, open yourself up and give them a chance, how do you have any idea what you really believe? That's how things become bigger than your life. That's how you transcend your problems.

But I guess I'm not one to preach. I had an epiphany about a month ago and since then have felt like I exist in a different way. But I'm still shirking my homework to read the news every 10 minutes, and read fiction I shouldn't have time for, and "Stumble" the internet for gorgeous photographs and lots of random crap, and eat too much chocolate when other people are happy with just enough rice, and etc.

Wait, where am I going with this? I don't know.

But I should finish this chapter on AIDS, anyway.

superdelegates

I'm not sure how I feel about them, but they make me skeptical that I live in a democracy.

Of a little over 4,000 people choosing the Democratic party's nominee, almost 800 of them get to choose the candidate they personally favor based solely on the fact that they were a party leader in some form? That's about 1/4 choosing based on their own feelings.

Bush got to appoint the leaders of the EPA, and that didn't turn out well.

I read a quote about democracy recently that struck me as so true...

It might have been this one:

"Democracy consists of choosing your dictators, after they've told you what you think it is you want to hear."

Really, how much does anyone know about what goes on in Congress? Only what the media chooses to cover, and the media is a restricted outlet with, chiefly, the same opinions and cautions (with the exception of the totally-obnoxious, manipulative, far-right asshats FOX News, and the obviously leftist [oh, but I love them!] NPR).

Doesn't it seem strange that in this situation, we're choosing "dictators" to choose our "dictators"? I mean, that's just lazy. And we're talking about the party's nominee for president here. I think it should be an unfiltered popular vote.

Don't get me wrong--I support democracy. I just think I support a more direct democracy than the one we've got.

I guess it comes back to the average citizen being too "stupid".

And when you think about the number of news hours Britney Spears takes up vs. everything-else-in-the-world.... well.

...anybody else made uncomfortable by the idea of superdelegates? Or want to explain the logic behind them?